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Getting through Grief with Gratitude and Grace

My executive coach, Amy Douglas, once told me that acting on my instincts to help, expressing compassion or showing kindness, regardless of the circumstance or likelihood of reciprocity, would never leave me feeling bad. Failing to do so, however, would always make me miserable. In fact, one of the key principles behind The Arbinger Institute's book Outward Mindset, which I discovered with Amy's help, is that when we refuse these instincts, we find ourselves and our relationships falling into a self-perpetuating and negative cycle that is counterproductive - because it is untrue to who we are.